A few weeks ago I trolled everyone on Facebook by changing my statues. What started out as a joke has changed in a strange way.
The back story is kind of complicated, but I only participated in it, it was not my idea. I pretended to date someone and everyone was surprised because I had not had a boyfriend in over 3 years, he is Japanese, and this guy no one knew about. It went on for a week with very vague statues updates and pictures of us together. But in the end I told everyone the truth about us not really dating.
My really close friends were very sketchy about the whole thing so they were surprised at first but didn’t believe me 100% As time went on though I started seeing my “fake boyfriend” more and more. He would come over to the house and just chill with us. It was nice. He can’t speak English and it forces me to use Japanese all the time when I’m with him. But when he does try to speak its adorable.
However, something strange started happen. Instead of sleeping out in the living room where there is plenty of space and an air mattress, he would sleep next to me. He never tried anything. Didn’t touch me, cuddle, or spoon. Just next to me and for some reason I didn’t mind that at all.
One day before I had to go to work we went out on what I guess would be considered a date. We went to the arcade and after we had a late lunch. I tried to tell him that at the last house party I felt a little left out because everyone spoke only Japanese and mine is very limited. I can’t participate in conversation and my roommate isn’t always going to be there to translate for me so most of the time I’m completely lost. Especially when it’s about a heavy topic. I went on to tell him how my Japanese just isn’t enough and that the people who came to TUJ at the same time I did in Fall 09, are practically fluent now. I then said, ”Well I guess it’s because they all had Japanese girl friends”
He then said, “well that ok. You have me/I’m your boyfriend now”
I was like “what??…. Wait what? Do… You like me?”
He just kind of nodded and smiled. I asked again in disbelief and he still just nodded and smile. I must admit, if I had the ability to blush, it would have been all over my face. But I wasn’t believing this 100%. I was sure something was lost in translation. I ended up telling some friends and my roommate. He called me 2 days later and asked to come over when my roommate grabs the phone and interrogates him. “Do you like her!?! Say it! Say it!!”
When he finally came in she sat us both down and pried it out of both of us out in the open. It was a little embarrassing how the whole thing went down. I could tell he was a bit uncomfortable about it too but I guess that’s in the past now. So hmmmm what can I say? After all this time, I finally have a boyfriend. Yup that just happened. I’ll admit I’m still not over the whole “wow… Someone actually… Likes.. Me?” phase. And I’m learning to like him back. We are taking things slowly.
It is a bit hard though. There’s just so much I wish I could talk about but I can’t find the words. Literally, I don’t know enough Japanese to communicate all that I want to say. I haven’t been in a lot of relationships. It’s also been a while since my last one and this is the first time I’m in an intercultural one. The fact that we can’t really talk to each other is kind of scary but I’m willing to see where this could go. Let’s give it a try!